Cardi B is a national treasure—we all know this. But you’re also a national treasure, and whoever you’re dating should know that too! Cardi B, our guiding light in 2017, breaks this down pretty handily in her latest appearance on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon.

The whole interview is great, in no small part because Cardi actually leaves Fallon speechless more than once, and is so intimidatingly cool that for some reason he tries and kind of fails to sound as cool as she does. But the real takeaway is this: Know your worth! Do not be afraid to tell people! Even and especially the person you are dating! When Cardi retells the story of her courtship with Migos rapper and fiancé Offset, she says she didn’t know his marriage proposal was coming. BUT SHE DID KNOW, in a way, because, she admits, “He used to tell me like, ‘I’m gonna marry you, I’m gonna marry you.’” Then she looks down and smiles—as if to say “Who, me?” but really in a way that’s like “Yes, me”—and continues. “And it’s just like, HHMMMMM.” More smiling, pause. “It’s the right thing to do.”

That is the best advice I’ve heard all year: When someone you’re with thinks you’re the hottest shit on earth, own it. Own it with or without them. Goodbye to all that self-doubt! Now go forth and use this knowledge to the best of your advantage. Happy new year.